A bit harsh?

Written by The Chaotic Diaries of a Brown Girl

I will put my hands up and admit that maybe I was a little harsh on the aunties. 

I still stand by everything I said in my post on “Oppressed Aunties and Gossip Culture”, however that is not the only bracket that all aunties fit into. But you’re not idiots, I’m sure you’d have figured that out. 

Gossiping is just a way of life. It is so crucial. It’s how you know what is going on around you. Like I have said before, it is micro-news. It is also a release of stress - perhaps a release of pent up thoughts. 

So as bitchy as it may be of these aunties, I get it. I have had my moments too. I’m only human! But goodness me, observing some instances really highlight to me that I need to know when and where to stop. You can’t share gossip. That’s the biggest rule of gossip!  There is an alliance formed which cannot be broken. 

This sacred news you have had the privilege of learning is not for you to share with just anyone. Nor is it to share with someone who gossips carelessly, without paying heed to whom they share information with. Gossip your hearts out. But gossip carefully!

After all, it is a social skill. In order to survive in this world, it is crucial to do your research on those around you, to gather who you can and cannot trust or to learn of the nature of others in order to stay informed and make informed decisions, whilst being provided with a dose of entertainment one desires. It is a way of creating relations, as the act of gossiping can bring the participants together and form a bond.There is a mutual trust shared and formed. There may be trial and errors in finding suitable participants, but it is up to individuals to learn through these and comprehend where, when and to whom what is to be spoken. 

I get it, it’s a release. We all need it. I need it. 

As for the previous absolute ball of hatred shared towards aunties and uncles, well i’m obviously here to vent! Aunties aren’t the worst people out there, I just (quickly)  hate them sometimes. These women teach me too much to make enemies with, so unfortunately, I am willingly stuck.